Get her to explain what she believes, and how it might differ from her church. I understand your internal conflict completely and my heart goes out to you. They have money for nannies, trips, vacation homes, their children go to the finest colleges, etc. Do not expect anything long term. If you do believe it fully, are you not really going to want him to make the conversion ultimately. She hasn't submitted the paperwork yet but I have no doubt that she will do this eventually. Does she understand that for a long-term relationship to succeed that the partners must treat each other as equals. I have to say that reading this is exactly what I needed today. As my husband learns about Mormonism I get to see it through his fresh eyes. I don't think I can do it again.
I read every page of the CES letter, and it's definitely convinced me this entire religion is fabricated, but I'm sure she wouldn't even read it much less consider its points seriously. Adding an interfaith element means you have many more adjustments to make. When we were dating he made it very clear to me that he had no desire to come back to church. He is absolutely, hands-down my favorite human being on the planet. You should ask yourself if you want to have input on the way your children are raised. And when he's working, you should be able to connect somehow.
Funny thing is he told me when we met that he was ready to stop focusing so much on work and start focusing more on his life. I, too, am the wife of a doctor dermatology resident. And yet when retirement comes up in the conversation, its a definite "not while I have the skills "- 75 maybe. Maybe we'll break up in a month. The doctrinal and afterlife issues around a non-temple marriage are an entirely different topic, and one that I am personally much more at peace with than my questions about how one might make an interfaith marriage work in this life. You I think are ok with that. Your comments make my day. Best wishes to those struggling with these big, life-altering decisions. That doesn't get better unless you humble yourself, either -- admit you might be wrong. Before that, you are encouraged to date, but not exclusively.
When you try to explain to them why the church would not publish said info on their own website they get mad at you and tell you you're ignorant. But daytime game is the key. Plan on rolling your eyes A LOT at family get torturers together. Personally, I like to have my own identity and not be defined by my attachment to Dr. I agree we shouldn't continue if we can't accept each other as we are. For whatever reason, none of them ever seemed that interested in me I freely admit this could have been cluelessness on my partand so never turned serious.