Disney gives them the fantasy where they can easily achieve a standard of perfection with low risk. This broke my heart. And of course, when it happens, no one the leaver or the faithful spouse could have predicted it. You need to do this ceremony first where you end up pledging all your money and property to the church: It's cruel to suggest it. I tell her there's no pressure and we'll just see how things play out. I have been a doctor's wife for 1 year now and we've been together for 7 years. This is my own personal opinion. I also think that if marriage outside the covenant is a sin, it is not so grave as to be unforgivable. Patriarchal leadership is something that most women in the world valued until recently, but it is still a chief value with Mormons.
I don't see anywhere in your post where there is a complete commitment. But honestly, after putting so much time and money into something, not doing their absolute best and putting time and effort into it just isn't something people are apt to do even if they do like you If you can't be cool with getting what you can get now, I would consider there are plenty of things that might not change setting them loose. Spending a lifetime single is not something most people would choose to do, but fear of being forever single should never be a deciding factor in entering a marriage, lest serious problems go unaddressed before serious commitments are made. Catholics basically married catholics and protestants basically married protestants. She was fine marrying in an LDS church instead of the temple, didn't want to convert me, and most importantly didn't try to change my beliefs or opinions. When out on a date with a Mormon guy or girl, be very decent, courteous, and well-mannered.
God told me to marry my husband. Ask questions, try to find out as much as you can. If you aren't sealed together, say good-bye for eternity. Be thankful that you chose a man with passion and drive; realizing that his energies will not always focused on you. I'm dating a 2nd year surgical resident, he has three kids from a previous marriage and I have one. Again, I deeply love my dad, but these were things that I had to deal with. I mean, I get where it comes from but it's so ridiculous. He's just wrapping up his first year. But wait a minute.
On his days off he sleeps all day long. I bring him food I make sure he's happy. You'll know pretty quick where she stands. If you are only after non-serious dates and spend a great time, you should be fine with this set up. It sounds like if we were to have a happy ending, it wouldn't be quite so happy because of how we raise our kids or how the rest of the family would treat me forever We'll discuss it again in more depth now that I have a few specific concerns about what our future together might look like. If so, then step away from the internet and go look him in the eyes and take his hands and start asking him all the questions you asked me.