But I loved this girl more than anything in life. Make an honest effort, and see if you reach the walk-away point. Learning from a young age that any religion will do means that your children almost certainly will ultimately believe that any religion will do. But it is important to be ruthlessly honest with yourself about how you feel about it. The first few months were wonderful we saw each other every few weeks, we live about miles from each other. She is considered "an old maid" by Mormon standards, so she may be willing to marry you--hoping you will convert someday --but she will constantly be reminded that your marriage is inferior to the "Eternal Families" of sealed Mormons, and she will fear dying and never seeing her loved ones again.
If you are worries about her or her family trying to convert you, be honest. I am so glad I found this blog. Do you see yourself being with him for many years. It just plain sucks. I am realizing now, after leaving my job, selling my house, moving ect…. That is her ultimate goal when it comes to dating and choosing potential mates. What you described, just being in each other's presence, sounds perfect. Also not one Nickel will be tithed out of any shared funds.
Needless to say, my life is a little bit crazy. You need to disabuse them of this notion. Even without temple covenants marriage is a noble and worthy institution. For every lesson and sermon preached about loving everyone, there are one or two lessons on avoiding outsiders because they will destroy your eternity. Be thankful that you chose a man with passion and drive; realizing that his energies will not always focused on you. I remember when my ex and I had invited friends to our house for a 4th of July dinner and had spent a lot of money and time getting ready. They even refrain from tea and coffee. Even more lonely for myself as I have no one to complain this situation to.
If you are in a movie theater, you can't talk, so you can't get to know the girl you are dating. He is in a way to become a Ex mormon. But please also know that the people who love you are hoping you make the right decision because they want you to be happy. Several of the apostles have grown up in part member homes. Look, as a shelia, its no different from a bloke. That sentence strikes me as rather bizarre--it seems to be alluding to a causal link between academics and being "emotionally immature," as you put it. I'm dating a Mormon girl right now but we both understand that it is most likely isn't going to last long. The thing is, even though no one else trusted my decision, I prayed about it daily for our entire relationship.